I am a woman.
Yet I am not what society believes is THE typical woman.
What does society believe is a typical woman?
For starters, she is someone who loves to cook. Then, on top of that, she is one who can shop till she drops; can’t go anywhere without her big bag; prefers taking care of the home and the kids rather than going up the career ladder.
Oh NO, I am definitely not that woman.
I love to eat yet I hate cooking.
Okay, let me clarify this – I can cook a passably edible meal when I need to. But do I LIKE to cook? No, I definitely don’t. I love watching cooking shows and wishing I could eat their fabulous meals but I do not have the passion and creativity in the kitchen that most people have.
Bravo to those who can whip up a feast without breaking a sweat. But ask that of me and I’ll probably just order from a restaurant if there’s a special event worth celebrating.
Does this make me less of a woman? No, I don’t think it does.
I love going to the spa and getting a massage but I don’t like to shop.
Leave me in a spa for 8 hours and I can assure you I can maximize my time there.
Leave me in a shopping mall and after an hour or two, I would probably request if we can go home.
Here’s what happens when I shop:
1. I make a list of what I need to buy;
2. I go into the department store or a shop where I know the item I need to buy is being sold;
3. I select 2 to 3 items to fit at a time;
4. If one of the item fits perfectly, I immediately buy it;
5. Repeat the process for all the items on my list;
6. END SHOPPING
If I find something that fits my purpose, I’ll buy it. I will not go into other shops trying to find a better match or end up buying more than I initially planned on buying. If it isn’t on THE LIST, it will get dismissed.
But you know who does that in our family? It’s my husband, not me, who loves to shop!
So what do we do when we go out together? I sit or go to get a massage while he goes around ACE Hardware or any electronics shop to his heart’s content. Compromise: it really works magic in any relationship ;-).
I don’t like bringing large, bulky bags and I definitely do not wear makeup.
My husband and I are reversed again on this topic. Whenever we leave the house, I usually carry only a small sling bag. It contains my small wallet, powerbank, mobile phone, a pen and an alcospray. That’s it. No comb, no lipstick, no powder.
Now, when my husband leaves the house, he carries a backpack that’s definitely bigger than my sling bag. It contains all of his precious gadgets, wet wipes and other stuff he believes we need.
We really are a match made in heaven, eh? 😅
I prefer to work in the office as an IT manager instead of being a full-time stay-at-home mom.
I love my kids, don’t get me wrong. They make me look forward to getting home after a long, crazy day in the office. And they love me too. In fact, my kids prefer mommy over daddy whenever both of us are home. But I neither have the energy nor the patience to take care of my kids all day everyday.
Just imagining being with my children all day – where both will chatter my ear off all the time, where they will argue non-stop, where everywhere I go, there will always be a mess – makes me long for the confines of my office where peace and quiet reign, where I only need to talk to people when needed. Ah, blessed silence.
I salute the teachers, nannies and caregivers who handle rambunctious kids all the time. I would never be able to do what you manage easily on a daily basis.
But again, does it make me less of a woman? Hmm, I certainly don’t think so.
So what is my point here? What then should be the definition of a typical woman?
The bottomline here is, there is NO SINGLE DEFINITIVE DESCRIPTION of what a woman should be. All women are perfectly imperfect and can do whatever it is that they want to do!
You want to be a stay at home mom and cook to your heart’s content? Do it.
You want to be a rockstar and have the grit and talent to be one? Do it.
You want to conquer the corporate world with your intellect and not get married immediately? Do it.
You want to be a momtrepreneur and manage a business while spending time with your kids? Do it.
I can go on and on about this topic and never run out of all the possibilities of what a woman can be. Because out of the billions of women in the world today, there are no two people perfectly alike – even if you’re twins! WE ARE ALL UNIQUE. Uniquely perfect as we are.
As Dr. Seuss once said, “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.“
Be proud of your perfect imperfection and celebrate your uniqueness daily!